Friends with benefits doesn’t work unless you actually do not respect the person
I hate the notion of a guy being stuck in the friend zone. However, if you genuinely like a girl and you’re afraid of being put in the friend zone instead….here are some basic rules to stay out of the friend zone.
#3 Don’t be the shoulder to cry on
If you fall in the trap of being the guy she runs to every time her love life goes wrong, and not for a rebound root, then you’re in the friend zone. If a girl is talking to you about her past, present and future relationships she is looking to you as a friend for advice from a guys perspective and not looking to you as the guy who will prove to her that there is light at the end of the tunnel.
#2 Don’t be a push over
Don’t treat her mean, don’t be a jerk, but for your own interest don’t be available to cater to all her demands without expecting anything in return. Friendships are always two ways, you don’t go out of your way for one of your friends unless you know they would do the same. Going out of the way for a girl put you in a position where you might be used, because you’re reliable no matter how she treats you in return. Its not good for you, and it won’t help your situation.
#1 Don’t take too long
You don’t want to be her friend? Tell her that. You want to build a relationship first, but if you want to be with her take action. If she doesn’t feel the same at least you’re not sitting there in silence upset because she’s dating your best friend instead.
Making some form of a move at least puts it in her head that you’re an option.
Cheating is a never a good idea, and there is never a good justification.
People get caught up in the moment, and make mistakes, and we shouldn’t judge people on those grounds. Instead we should encourage them think about the reasons they have made such mistakes.
My slut post was in jest, and was not to be taken seriously. I would like to stress the point that we should not label people as sluts. I think its an outdated concept and we shouldn’t judge and reprimand people for their lifestyle choices. I do not think that a persons actions are always indicative of their lack of self respect or sexual promiscuity.
If he is your ex, isn’t there a reason you guys are broken up?
But sure, just tell him and leave it. I mean, he may hide his feelings but if he knew how you felt then that takes out the element of fear of rejection
Good luck xx
Screw that dude, how can he “forget” to talk about his developing feelings for you. In high school that consumes your brain, he’s most definitely using it to cover up the fact he has no balls to talk to you in person about it so he is getting you to do all the initiating.
So really, you’ve got to decide if you’re cool with that or if you want to make him chase you.
Good luck xx
Consider this a introductory guide on the essential terms for a slut in training. These positions are native to the classic whorebag and have been passed down from generation to generation. All positions are 100% tried and tested, guaranteeing to give you trashy status after three (3) positions have been executed.
Spit Roast - the classic two guys one girl
Bathroom Stall Smash and Dash - can’t wait to get home? Don’t want to take them home? Find your nearest, cleanest, emptiest bathroom stall and go at it like monkeys on heat
Alley Way Lay - similar to the Bathroom Stall Smash and Dash except in your favourite alley way. Its spices things up with the risk of an audience
Alley Way Pray - get down on your knees and get to work ladies!
Red Trash Door Knock Appeal - allow yourself to be passed around like a bong. Once finishing your duties with one suitor, go straight to the next contenders house.
Dark Corner Dance Floor - because sometimes all you need is two fingers and a crowd
Clown Car - try to cater as many men at the same time.
Niagara Falls - let the white wash cover your face.
Down Hill Skier - individual shafts for each hand
….and that concludes our first lesson
Cold turkey. It sucks a bit and you have to distract yourself heaps but after months (yeah, months) you just wont even think about it.
Unfortunately you can’t change someone. Don’t press the issue but make sure they know when they want to talk, you’re there for them. Which I am sure he knows :)
But maybe you could have a heart to heart and try and compromise? See if there is a way for to show you how he feels? You sound like me, I am the same, I never bloody shut up when I have a problem I am so open about my issues. So I always feel like I need something similar in return to validate feelings, whether that be of love or that they are happy.
So maybe there is a way he can show that for you, without opening up. Coz he may just be someone who doesn’t open up. Most boys are. They’re frustrating like that
Pretty sure the dates/ engagement/ wedding aren’t free. Even if you go Dutch. Hate to disappoint!
Good luck :D
The only person who will think of her as you, is him….and that would only be the case if he was trying to replace her with you. In which he probably would over compensate. You probably just look alike because he has a pretty obvious type. You’re not her, and in his eyes he probably things you’re way cooler!
Good luck x
Give it time. He may just need to take it slow, especially if he was the one hurt he is going to be scared the same thing is happening. If you want to, give it time. But also just don’t put all your eggs in the basket. Stay in a position where if you’re getting dicked around you can noticed it and do whats right for you.
Good luck :)
How DO you feel about them? If something doesn’t feel right, its probably because it isn’t
Good luck xx
Approach it like you would an old friend you miss seeing. Start asking them how’s things, eventually the conversation and connection will rebuild. You may not get him back, but if you want to at least have him back in your life you’ve got to be patient. Its going to take a LONG time
Good luck x