I have this new theory: your first time with someone sets the tone for a large portion of your relationships
Pretty radical theory but I feel there is a lot of truth behind it…..especially among females (well maybe not actually, its just easier for me to talk about female perspective because I am one)
It just appears to me when the topic of first times come up, the rest of the sex-capades revolve around the same type of men…
Let me spell it out for you ladies….
….the girl who lost her virginity to her boyfriend, usually ends up having sex with similar guys OR under the same circumstances
…the girl who lost it in the back seat of the car to the school jock…..generally, same thing.
Like I said, wait it out. Might just be a little bit of wanting what you don’t have. Be sure about things before hurting others in the process.
Might be a grass is always greener situation. Wait it out, you might either see why you guys shouldn’t be together or more reason you should. But don’t change your situation unless you know its only going to hurt your current boyfriend or you are sure that this is something you need to pursue
I JUST answered a question SORT OF on the lines of this because I have been in this position. I think most people have, the long term best friend and then you have feelings for them. If you friendship recovered then, it can again. Give it a shot, as long as you’re willing to be friends if he instead rejects you. The more open and honest you approach the situation, and cut out the drama, the less likely there will be any shitty repercussions.
She will get attached!! Keep that in mind.
Sounds like the relationship is getting toxic for you. Always take care of yourself first, take a step back and think is this how you want to be spending the rest of your life? And if it ends, would you regret working so hard?
Asking a long time friend about how they feel about you is really hard. One day though it has to be done, just make sure you reiterate that its okay if they don’t feel the same way and that you are happy to be friends. This can work, I know because I have done it too.
I have a friend I’ve known for almost two decades, and of course at some point we both questioned our feelings for each other and addressed the situation. We both did this at different times, and it wasn’t reciprocated when we asked. We are still just as close as we were before we talked about feelings and relationship and stuff. There are little things that have changed, but I am grateful for being able to keep our friendship.
You have the power to do the same thing. I know, its just a matter of growing the courage to ask.
Good luck x
Ask her out! Worst case scenario she declines and you can save it by just saying “Oh just as friends, sorry if that came off the wrong way” and then you know you’re answer.
Good luck xx
RUN. Sorry I am in the same situation. Its best just to try as hard as humanly possible to get over someone who is in a relationship. It always ends messy and it might not be worth the drama, try and get over it and if you’re lucky in the mean time they might become single and come after you. But do NOT bank on it. It is easier just to move on unfortunately.
Its a hard truth but not all affair relationships work out. Just because someones relationship was stemmed from an almost affair, or an affair, doesn’t mean yours will. Cherish the friendship if you can though, but try and focus your feelings on someone else for the sake of your sanity.
Good luck xx
Maybe he is nervous? Give it time, some times people aren’t ready at the same time. Talk to him about things, communication is the key to a good relationship.
Good luck x
Here are some tips for you girls out there, how to behave after a one night stand or casual sex
Ride it out, these things can happen. Give yourself some space from this other guy, if you still have feelings for him. Maybe reassess the situation you are in. Worst thing would be to string along two people at once.
I always like sentimental gifts that mean something to each other. You don’t have to go for expensive or extravagant, even planning a nice day together would be a great gift.
There is no set of gift ideas that work for everyone so just try and think of something he might like.
Good luck :)
I am almost always the most talkative person in a situation, and while I haven’t had this problem with a boyfriend I have had this problem with my best female friends and she is basically taking the role of boyfriend for me.
I find for people that aren’t that talkative, its fine to keep talking the best way to show that you listen and care is to actually sit back and listen when they do decide to share stuff with you. People open up in their own time. Don’t forget to take time out, and ask how they are, and wait patiently for a response. But don’t worry if they’re not super chatty to you in return. Some people just aren’t as chatty as we are.
Good lucky :)
I wrote a post that you should trust your gut instinct, but you should also think about why certain issues are issues in your relationship. Think about this problem in a broader aspect, are you just getting paranoid because you feel insecure? Has there been changes recently in the relationship that make you feel like he is showing less affection?
Before you act on an issue like this, really think about what is really bothering you.
If you’re worried he is cheating, don’t go all psycho yet. Wait it out to see if there are other signs before taking action.