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please find me a girlfriend or a wife , for free.

Pretty sure the dates/ engagement/ wedding aren’t free. Even if you go Dutch. Hate to disappoint! 

Good luck :D

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My current bf's ex was very important to him, and I understand that. I know he loves me, but I get jealous sometimes. (The ex and I look similar even.) I want to be different than her, so i even dyed my hair. Although he is romantic with me, I've noticed that he used to do grand romantic gestures for her (like asked her to prom in hs), while i'm sitting here and he really doesn't do much... is it bad to want these gestures? how do i stop being so jealous? i'm falling apart. i don't wanna be her.

The only person who will think of her as you, is him….and that would only be the case if he was trying to replace her with you. In which he probably would over compensate. You probably just look alike because he has a pretty obvious type. You’re not her, and in his eyes he probably things you’re way cooler!

Good luck x

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I've been seeing this guy for about 2 months now. We get on so well, I go to his house 2-3times a week. We've had sex and it's great. The only thing is, he got out of a long term relationship about 5 months ago. We've talked about it a lot, I know all the details. However, he's told me he isn't ready for a relationship as of yet. I have some strong feelings for him, so am worried I'm just going to get hurt. Do you have any advice on what I should do? (continue with it or break it off?) Thanks x

Give it time. He may just need to take it slow, especially if he was the one hurt he is going to be scared the same thing is happening. If you want to, give it time. But also just don’t put all your eggs in the basket. Stay in a position where if you’re getting dicked around you can noticed it and do whats right for you.

Good luck :)

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How are you supposed to feel after three months of dating someone. Like how are you meant to be or what are you meant to feel towards them?

How DO you feel about them? If something doesn’t feel right, its probably because it isn’t 

Good luck xx

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My ex bf broke up with me 2 months ago. He said that he was really stressed out and didn't think he was ready to be in a serious relationship. He is a senior in high school and I'm a freshman in college. I tried the no contact rule for 60 days and we both havn't contacted each other and now that the 60 days is over I want to talk to him again but I'm to scared to. I want us to get back together but I want to focus on us talking again so plz help me I miss him a lot.

Approach it like you would an old friend you miss seeing. Start asking them how’s things, eventually the conversation and connection will rebuild. You may not get him back, but if you want to at least have him back in your life you’ve got to be patient. Its going to take a LONG time 

Good luck x

Dating Lesson #16

Don’t settle for someone because its comfortable and easy

Well, it’s true!

Well, it’s true!

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I had dumped my now ex-boyfriend friday, because i liked his bestfriend. Apparently he liked me too, one friend overheard him in a lesson saying he likes me, however im not sure if she’s telling the truth. And my cousin said that everytime he sees her he asks where i am, and not “hey”,and that he’s always talking about me, he also asked her if i liked him on tuesday, she responded “ask her in history”, I wasn’t in history, but he found out off of my “Friend”. i am not asking him if he likes me..

Why don’t you ask? Things are so easily brushed off as a joke in high school. Just say, rumour has it you like me? Would you care to clarify that for me. 

If he says yes - ah winner

If he says no - just brush it off that you were just wondering incase things got awkward

Good luck x

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What do you do as someone who is always pursued by people she doesn't want and is rejected by the ones she does? Right now I like someone but it's impossible. He only sees me as a sister and I'm stuck. But honestly I don't see why anyone would love me if I don't see any worth in myself. I'm basically average, not pretty but not ugly. Not a horrible personality but not a great one. I'm just tired of feeling alone and unwanted romantically. It's been 20 years..

Learn to love yourself!!! I read an article recently by a terribly written ebook series blog type website…but it did have one article that made a good point. Learn to do things by yourself so you know who you are as a person and you can rely on yourself for love and support. In expansion to that, THEN you may explore the love of others and you may find that love will find you. If you really do honestly like this guy, work on yourself at the same time as taking a chance with him. But whatever you do, please do not depend on him, or his love to make you happy or fulfil your needs of self worth. 

You are amazing, you just need to wipe the fog away and see it.

Good luck xx

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My last question hasn't popped up. And its kind of one of those burning questions. I'm hoping you just missed it haha. So my last question was how do I keep a boy I've been hanging out with for months and boned over the weekend. But now it's kind of morphed into. How do I ACT around a boy I've boned and is clearly not interested in me but we still have to hang out all the time. Also, any advice on claiming him would be great.

I am currently in this situation and was advised from a good friend that there was this documentary done on men and sex and the take home point was: the first thing a guy feels after sex is regret. Give the guy space, he’s probably confused about how he feels. In time things will always work out

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hey so theres this guy and ive gotten with him 4 times (just kissing) and i knew he kinda liked me but hes kinda ugly and peeople were judging me and i was an idiot and succumbed to peer pressure and ended it but via text cuz it was really casual but then i realized i wanted him back (3 weeks later) so we talked so much last night and he had his arm around me but then i had to go so i texted him this morn and said "i shouldnt have ended it" and he said "uh idk what to say" WHAT DO I SAY TO THAT?

Put it out there but give him space and time to make the decision, you don’t want to force the idea on someone because then if it ends again you just end up looking like the dick. Not that you are or anything, but at least you can both take the time to make sure you want to be together and its not just the illicitness of the situation that is attractive

Good luck xx

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I can't get this guy I have a huge crush on to notice me. I text him and he doesn't seem the least bit interested in what I have to say... How do I get him to like me? It's driving me nuts.

Ergh don’t waste your time on those who aren’t interest. Best answer I can give you. You deserve better than that! Besides, everyone is attracted to complacence 

Good luck x

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I was dumped by the guy who I thought was the one. I had been lied to throughout the relationship and I was wondering how do I learn to trust again? Also, I have pretty severe social anxiety and I was wondering if you had any tips on how to branch out and meet new guys. Thank you for your time

Sorry for the late reply!!! Speaking to my soul sister (openly introverted). Learning to trust again is hard but guess what, I read this somewhere and I can’t remember where but it totally helps the people you can trust the most are the people you’ve only just met, because they haven’t done anything to betray you yet. So you know, give people a chance. Its hard, have those walls up for a reason but be open to the fact that not everyone is going to be a douche like your ex. 

Once a fool, twice fooled. So just play it smart, not impersonal. 

I have been trying to branch out and meet new guys all my single life. It is so hard but the best thing you should do is not limit it to potential romantic interactions - go to a party BECAUSE you don’t know anyone, join a new social groups or extra curricular activity BECAUSE you don’t know anyone. Take chances in the world, it will be good for your social anxiety (its super scare and you want to hyperventilate and die but you have to face a fear to get over it sometimes). Start small though, i.e. I started doing a boxing class with 5 people. Started with a friend, now that friend took some time off I’d already established a friendship so I am now in a comfort zone with these NEW people. 

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Im a sophomore who likes a senior. I really like him and i want to start talking to him. I dont have any classes with him but i pass by him in the hall like 5x a day. Sometimes he catches me staring and we hold eye contact for a second nd then i chicken out and look away. I followed him on instagram and tiwtter and he followed me back so he knows who i am at least. I am afraid to smile at him because i hate my braces and i am really insecure about them. So how do i give hints that im into him

OMG I love our social media generation - I know this reply is probably way later and you’ve probably done something to make the move by now (I am the worst I am sorry, I am that annoying person who opens a message and doesn’t reply). But you should definitely start something by commenting on instagram or doing something twitter related. Best way to start a connection, takes out the awkwardness and then boom you have something to talk about

Good luck!!

The Other Woman

The truth about being the other woman, is you find yourself more lonely than you have ever felt before